Forgive is a word used frequently and asked for even more frequently. FOR–GIVE as a GOGI Tool is very different from the word forgive. FOR–GIVE as a tool requires action on your part and has little to do with engaging in conversation or processing with another.
Don’t misunderstand, at GOGI we know that forgiving is important, and to address hurts and harms with others, to ask for and to give forgiveness is crucial and is the backbone of nearly every spiritual study, religion and culture. FOR–GIVE as a tool, however, is simply a tool you can use to get beyond the hurt or harm caused by self or others. When you get beyond the harm it is easier for forgiveness to emerge.
So, as a tool, FOR–GIVE is mainly about protection. The real question in using the tool FOR–GIVE is, “are you a sufficient distance from the harm-causing person or circumstance?” With this tool you look for your protection from further harm, because until you are sufficient distance from the harm, there is no point in trying to forgive because you are still in danger. As a tool, FOR–GIVE requires that you get distance from the harm.