The GOGI Tool REALITY CHECK is one of my favorites. REALITY CHECK focuses on forward motion. ’10 steps forward and two steps back is still 8 steps ahead.’ Forward motion. Resilience. Never giving up.
I grew up watching all of the Rocky movies with my father. My mother didn’t approve but she always ended up watching the end of the movie with us, where Rocky overcame all odds and beat his opponent. Who doesn’t love a ‘Cinderella story’? 🙂
Rocky’s key to winning against an opponent larger than himself was to wear them out. He took hit after hit, after hit until they became tired. Then he’d strike. Rocky was knocked down many times. The count would start but he always got back up before the Ref got to 10. Those were the times when he came back the strongest. Rocky won because of his heart. He won because of his willingness to learn and overcome. He knew the worth of a person was not based on how many times they were knocked down but how many times they got back up.
There is no shame in getting knocked down. The shame comes when we stop getting back up. That was the lesson I learned as a child and teenager. ALWAYS GET BACK UP!
One of the great things about getting knocked down is figuring out all the different ways you can get back up. Sometimes the best view is at ground level where you can get a good look at what caused you to be off balance, making you susceptible to a stumbling and falling.
Getting knocked down in life builds character, resilience and endurance.
I learned early on that when you get back up from being knocked down you have two choices:
- You can either hold on to the negative that knocked you down and allow it to make you a victim, timid, fearful, angry, unwilling to step back into the ring of life.
- You can find a positive in that negative and then throw the rest away. LET GO of it.
If you don’t LET GO of the negative, it will continue to keep you off balance, either through fear or anger. It will trigger the Emotional and Old Habit parts of your brain over and over again which will cause you to be more susceptible to being knocked down again. When you instead, acknowledge the negative that knocked you down, find something positive within that negative, apply it in your life and then LET GO of the rest ……. that, my GOGI Peeps is when the champion in you comes out.
Each time you get knocked down analyze it, become educated by it. Figure out what you can do better next time to avoid getting knocked down. Then learn to take the hits. Adapt to them. Learn to anticipate them. Soon you will see clearly how to weave and bob to avoid them.
I’m a firm believer in the notion that 95% of what happens to us is because of us. That means most of the time we are kicking our own ass. Think about that. Crazy right? While many might feel sadness at that thought, it brings me comfort and strength because it means that I am the solution to my own problems. I don’t have to beat anyone but myself, in the fight of life. I am in control. I just need to learn to use the tools at my disposal. The solutions are within me and the solutions are within you.
I’m going to close with the inspirational speech Rocky gave his grown son in the movie ‘Rocky Balboa’:
“The world ain’t all sunshine and rainbows. It’s a very mean and nasty place and I don’t care how tough you are, it will beat you to your knees and keep you there permanently if you let it. You, me, or nobody is gonna hit as hard as life. But it ain’t about how hard ya hit. It’s about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward. How much you can take and keep moving forward. That’s how winning is done! Now if you know what you’re worth then go out and get what you’re worth. But ya gotta be willing to take the hits, and not pointing fingers saying you ain’t where you wanna be because of him, or her, or anybody! Cowards do that and that ain’t you! You’re better than that!”